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The Boy has been really nurtured this week

Welcome to another Boy and the Cake story. Each week we follow the story of Little Adrian and Master Adrian and then get to share a yummy cake together.

This past week, little Adrian has been very nurtured. He has been given lots of positive attention. He has not had to make any (I should be honest here and say, many) decisions for Master Adrian, who has been very present and active. The daily routine of meditation, yoga (I call it painful stretching) and checking in regularly with the question ‘Where am ‘I’ Right Nowphysically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? has kept Little Adrian in the world of childhood and Master Adrian in the world of Adulthood. It has been a great week. Today, Little Adrian, along with Master Adrian, will celebrate with a yummy home baked cake.

                                             Today Little Adrian will have his cake and eat it!

Last week we shared a very yummy coffee cake. We ate it to celebrate being in Australia for 24 years. And now we  feel that every week should be a celebration. This week we are celebrating ‘Freedom’. Little Adrian feels very free from the responsibilities that he has had to carry whilst Master Adrian was AWOL (Absent With Out Leave). This freedom feels so good. It feels like a huge weight has been realised from the little boy’s shoulders.

I was facilitating a 3 day WAIRN? workshop early in the year and one of the participants spoke of, ‘Shackles to freedom, shackles to freedom’ as part of her journey. When the shackles come off, life is much lighter, and very much easier.

So, to celebrate I would like to share a FREEDOM CAKE with you. I have been into the kitchen, taken random ingredients and put together, without any recipe, A FREEDOM CAKE – made totally in freedom. And it turned out to be very yummy – A TRUE TASTE OF FREEDOM!

You can either follow my recipe or be totally free and make one up for yourself.

Ingredients:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        4 eggs, 300 grams of self-raising flour, 200 grams of soft butter, 200 mls of milk, 250 grams sugar, 50 grams of grated chocolate,           2 teaspoons of lemon juice, the juice from one orange, the grated rind(skin) of an orange.

Method:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Mix the eggs, sugar, milk, butter, lemon juice, orange juice, orange rind and chocolate for 0ne minute with a mixer. Then slowly add the flour and mix for a further 3 minutes.

Put mixture into cake tin. I use a round cake tin 25cm’s round.  A tip: Line the inside with butter and then coat with flour. To do this put a small amount of flour in the buttered tin and pat the tin as you turn it. The flour will stick to the butter – tip out the excess flour.

Bake for about 35 minutes at 200 degrees or at 180 degrees in a fan forced oven.

Then cool and eat!


The boy has another cake – finally. What’s the story?

The first thing that I feel I need to do, is to apologise to Little Adrian. It has been 3 weeks since the last cake and the last blog.

So, what is the story? Why did the cakes stop? – Why did the deal collapse? – Why did Master Adrian neglect Little Adrian?

This is why I made the decision to start this blog site – this is why I feel the need to share these stories – this is the reason for doing this each week (when I get my act together). It is the little boys and the little girls inside of us all that miss out when our ‘current age-self’ ‘  is not present – is not in control, is not holding up to the bargain, to the agreements, to the contracts.

It is then, when we do not do these things, that the little one’s have to run the show – when they are not really in a position to do what needs to be done. For a start – IT’ S NOT THEIR RESPONSIBILITY! What we require of them, and expect them to do, when we are not present, is either immoral or illegal or both.

It is not little Adrian’s responsibility to be a father, a husband, a healer, a therapist, a writer, a lover, a baker or any other adult role. But, and it is a BIG BUT, when Master Adrian is not very present and conscious and in control, Little Adrian steps in, which, in his mind, is a better thing to do than let life career out of control completely. He concludes that it is better to have a boy behind the steering wheel than an out of control adult, or perhaps, no-one at all. This is a big part of the problem – we have too many children running around doing what the adults should be doing.

So, today I made a cake for my boy. His smile has returned. His little fingers were dipping into the cake mixture and stealing little bits and cleaning out the bowl … he was in bliss. He was not only in bliss because of the cake – he was in bliss because Master Adrian had returned. The little boy could now breathe a sigh of relief and relax. Little Adrian has had a busy few weeks and now needs to go and play. And it feels good to have honoured my boy. It has been a challenge to get back – but, hey, I did it!

As I sat eating breakfast this morning and contemplating my life – I arrived in Australia 24 years ago today – so I was reflecting on that as well – I could smell the cake. I could see my granny busy in the kitchen. I knew exactly what cake was coming. A coffee cake!

So to share our joy, and to celebrate 24 years of being in Australia, we want to share our cake with you. It is such a yummy cake and it has been many years since Little Adrian has had one.

Please let us know your stories, your thoughts and your cake baking experiences.

And remember – it is okay to have your cake and eat it!

Coffee Cake.

Ingredients:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       I use organic ingredients wherever possible.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    400grams of plain flour. 7 teaspoons of baking powder (or use self-raising flour). 200 grams sugar. 4 eggs. 180grams of butter. 150 mils of water and coffee.

Method:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Sift the flour and baking powder. Mix the flour and sugar in a bowl – I always mix all of the dry ingredients. In another bowl lightly beat 4 eggs and then add the softened butter and mix together. Add the 150 mililitres of water and coffee and mix well. The coffee can be instant or make a small pot of coffee and strain out 150 mils and use that.

Add the wet to the dry ingredients and mix well for a few minutes. Pour into a prepared cake tin. I use a round 25cm cake tin that is 75 mm high. Line the tin with butter and coat with flour. To do this put a small amount of flour in the buttered tin and pat the tin as you turn it. The flour will stick to the butter – tip out the excess flour.

Bake for approximately 35 minutes at 190-200 degrees or 170-180 degrees in a fan forced oven.

An then to finish it off. Once the cake is cool, cut it in half and fill the middle, and coat the top, with a coffee icing mixture. Mix 350 grams of icing sugar (sieved if not fine already) and add 150 – 200 grams of butter and a 1/2 teaspoon of coffee (instant or other) – mix well.

Cool in the fridge for a while if you have the patience – And then eat it!